The FANOS Pillow

The FANOS Pillow (Feelings, Appreciations, Needs, Ownership, Successes) is a beautifully designed couples’ intimacy tool that turns difficult conversations into moments of closeness. And even a daily ritual!

𝑺𝙩𝒓𝙚𝒏𝙜𝒕𝙝𝒆𝙣 𝙮𝒐𝙪𝒓 𝒓𝙚𝒍𝙖𝒕𝙞𝒐𝙣𝒔𝙝𝒊𝙥, 𝒐𝙣𝒆 𝒄𝙤𝒏𝙫𝒆𝙧𝒔𝙖𝒕𝙞𝒐𝙣 𝙖𝒕 𝒂 𝒕𝙞𝒎𝙚.

✨ How it works
The pillow is divided into five sections guiding each partner through the check-in with prompts woven into the design. No guesswork, no awkward silence.

🪄 What it’s for
Supports couples in rebuilding trust, deepening intimacy, and creating safe space for open sharing—whether at home or in therapy.

💞 Why couples love it

- Fosters daily communication rituals
- Makes vulnerability feel safe and natural
- Strengthens both emotional and physical closeness

Beautiful enough to display, practical enough to use every day.

🌙 Ideal for situations such as:

- Reconnecting after conflict or distance
- Building intimacy and trust
- Deepening vulnerability in a safe, structured way
- Enhancing sex and emotional closeness
- Couples therapy sessions or at-home relationship check-ins

Beautiful enough to display as décor, yet practical enough to use as part of your coupleship ritual.

FEELINGS
❤️ Loved | 💔 Unloved
🛡 Safe | 😨 Frightened
😡 Angry | 😄 Joyful
🥺 Alone | 🤝 Connected
🙏 Grateful | 😢 Sad
🌟 Valued | 🙅 Dismissed
👀 Seen | 😕 Misunderstood
💞 Close | 🚶 Distant
💖 Wanted | 🚫 Undesired
🌅 Hopeful | 🌑 Hopeless
💪 Confident | 😬 Anxious
😳 Ashamed | 😔 Embarrassed

APPRECIATIONS
🤗 Contact (e.g. initiating sex)
🧹 Selflessness (e.g. housework)
🪞 Accountability (e.g. apologizing)
📲 Effort (e.g. checked in)
🎁 Generosity (e.g. gifts, acts of service)
🕊 Patience (e.g. gave me space)
🪷 Presence (e.g. held space)

NEEDS
🤝 Connection
🛡 Safety
🤲 Respect
✅ Validation
💗 Empathy
🗽 Autonomy
💋 Affection
🔄 Repair
🕊 Honesty
🔥 Intimacy

OWNERSHIP
😠 Resentment
🙈 Immaturity
🛑 Defensiveness
🎭 Manipulation
🏃 Avoidance
⚡ Reactivity
☝️ Blame
🤥 Dishonesty

SUCCESSES
🚀 Overcame
💖 Healed
💋 Shared intimacy
🌱 Grew
🎉 Had fun
🤝 Worked together
🗣 Communicated honestly
💌 Made up